Dissertation Monkey on Your Back?

July 11th, 2015|Categories: ABD, All But Dissertation, Blog, Communication, Education, Leadership|Tags: , , , , , , |

Do you have the Dissertation Monkey on your back? That’s when you are constantly thinking about how much progress you are not making in your dissertation and how much longer and how much more it’s costing to you graduate than you anticipated! Are you regularly trying to justify your education needs and lack of progress with your family and friends who miss you and don’t understand why you are not making more progress? If so, stop the madness! If you did not make the progress you wanted in the past 30-days, then stop what you are doing, and figure out what you really need to do and stop doing what is not working. Some students I don’t believe ever want to graduate, they like telling people they are a ‘doctoral student.’ Is that you? And, some actually fear they are never going to be good enough once they have the degree! That’s negative self-talk and you need to stop that if this is happening to you. Remember, incremental gains are small steps of progress that collectively add up to produce huge successes. My 14-years of being a dissertation chair tells me that focusing on writing one heading, in one chapter, at a time allows for greater progress. You are  where you today! You can't change that, but you can change where you will be in 30-days! What will you accomplish this next week and then in the next three weeks after? Write down measurable goals for yourself and then hold yourself accountable for the next 30-days. If you can't do that then you are lazy and probably are not going to graduate anyway – why bother continuing to pay tuition?! Quit already! But, if you can do it,

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What’s in Your Head?

June 28th, 2014|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The personal coaching and mentoring market is starting to look more and more like a used car salesmen convention of under-achievers. In fact, many who could not make it in sales (i.e., realtors, authors, speakers, and unsuccessful business people) are now considering themselves “Life Coaches” and “Career Mentors.” Those who are truly skilled and can make a difference by guiding others are becoming lost in the Sea of the Hacks who have yet to find success in their career choice and yet somehow believe it to be their mission in life to help others achieve what they themselves could not. Read the news or run a quick Internet search and you’ll discover too many unfortunate stories of ruined lives due to the guidance of unqualified coaches and mentors. Too many unsuccessful people are desperately searching for an easy way to make money. After they fail in their own career, they devise plans to feed off the aspirations of others. These hacks will take your money, promise you the moon, and try to convince you that someone or something else is to blame for your struggles. Don’t let these schemers rob you of your money and dreams! You may ask: How does one recognize a skilled coach or mentor as opposed to an unqualified one? It’s not always easy, but it is possible to separate those who are skilled from those who want to exploit you in order to make their own child support payments with your money. There are many great certification programs available, but they alone only tell you that someone was able to do a self-study course and pass a series of quizzes and tests. You need to do your research before you

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Communication is a Learned Trait

May 27th, 2014|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

Common communication characteristics can be learned and applied with an awareness and opportunity to practice. Newly promoted supervisors and seasoned organizational leaders can easily learn to communicate effectively and gain confidence in their roles. Like any skill, practicing effective relation building and communication skills will lead to great levels of success and increase confidence. This confidence can result in less conflict by the simple virtue of clarity of thought in both verbal and written dialogue. Learn more by downloading my best-selling book, "Laws of Communication: The Intersection Where Leadership Meets Employee Performance."   Click on Image for More Info                    

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Do You See Feedback as a Complaint or a Gift?

May 13th, 2014|Categories: Blog|

Many people indicate they would appreciate feedback, yet many who say they want it really don’t. Nor do they accept it well. What is your track record in receiving feedback, especially if it is unsolicited? Do you really want it and are you willing to do something about the information given? Or is it something you get defensive about in regard to how you run your business or do your job? Feedback is information you would not know otherwise and it should be considered a gift. Whether it is from customers or employees, colleagues or friends, someone is trying to help you learn from their experience when they offer you feedback. You may not agree with them, and you don’t have to, but do accept the feedback as you would any other gift - with a word of thanks. If you appreciate their comments and actually want more information from them, ask for a deeper explanation and then apply these simple steps: Reflect on the feedback and try to understand the information from the perspective of the person providing you the gift. Try to be objective and gain a sense of their position, thoughts, and behavior. Accept the gift with humility and a sense of openness to their input. Remember...they did not have to take the time to try and help you. Assess the information given. Have you heard similar feedback from others or is this new information? You may need to ask others for their input to see if they agree or not. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if things are not going as well in your business as you hoped they would be by now. Improve. Based on the reflection and

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